How Childhood Trauma Shapes Adult Relationships: A Deep Dive
Childhood trauma can profoundly impact adult relationships, influencing emotional connections and communication. Explore how early experiences shape our love lives.…
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Life Gets Lifey ↗The Guilt of Outgrowing Your Family
What if getting better makes you feel worse—about where you came from? This is a question I often sit with—personally, in therapy, and in life. Healing isn’t always…
Read essay ↗Therapy for Women Navigating Anxiety, Relationships, and Life Transitions
Online therapy allows women across Florida to access trauma-informed support without commuting or disrupting busy schedules. Many of the women I work with are:…
Read essay ↗How to Find a Trauma-Informed Therapist
What Does Trauma-Informed Therapy Mean? A trauma-informed therapist understands how early experiences shape the nervous system, identity, and relationships. This…
Read essay ↗What Are the Benefits of NARM ?
What Is NARM Therapy? The NeuroAffective Relational Model (NARM) is an advanced, trauma-informed therapy designed to help adults heal the lasting effects of…
Read essay ↗Asking for What I Need Without Feeling Guilty
In my last post, I shared how the Attunement survival style shows up in adulthood—the ways we minimize or silence our needs to preserve connection. Today, I want to…
Read essay ↗The Hidden Cost of Silencing Our Needs
In my last post, I shared how the Attunement survival style begins in early childhood when our needs for nourishment, support, or comfort were not consistently met.…
Read essay ↗Self-Hate Isn’t the Problem: It’s the Protector
The secret story behind self-hate and the slow work of reclaiming yourself. Ruth Trujillo-Pertew, LCSW Apr 27, 2025 Share These past few weeks have been full of…
Read essay ↗Seeing ClearlyFamily, Adaptation, and the Ghosts of the Past
I recently spent several months traveling and visiting family after being away for nearly three years. It was a perspective-shifting experience—like closing a…
Read essay ↗Reckoning and Connection in a Time of Collective Alienation and Grief.
I am starting this on the brink of Monday, January 20th—a day that feels heavy with anticipation. Tomorrow, the country gathers for a rite of passage, the…
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